Why I'm Waiting

Yesterday, a girl I know was celebrating her "anniversary" (note the quotation marks) of one year with her boyfriend. I use quotation marks around anniversary because I think it's really stupid and you can't have an anniversary until you're married. *eyeroll* Anyway, another person commented on said girl's facebook status and told her to give the BF a big hug and a kiss. To which I replied, "NOOOOOO!!! KISSING IS FOR MARRIED PEOPLE!!!" I meant it to be a little silly (even though I really believe that) because I knew she wouldn't care what I thought. Instead of taking it that way, she snapped back, "Actually, kissing is for anyone who wishes to do so, like a couple who love each other and believe it's ok." Well. Ok then. Excuse me for making you feel guilty.

But like I said, I really do believe you should wait until you're married to kiss, and here's why.
1. You ought to wait because you love him. Kissing is part of sex. It just is. And if you don't think so, you must be missing your sex drive or something. And I don't know an honest man in the world who would tell you that he's not turned on by kissing a girl. And if you're a Christian girl, you ought to do everything you can to help your man say pure before God. How can you say you love him when you're provoking him to sin? How unloving.
2. You ought to wait because he's worth it. News Flash: it wasn't meant to stop at a kiss. And if he's not worth waiting for, what are you doing dating him?
3. You ought to wait because kissing is a big deal. It's not just a kiss. It's the beginning of two becoming one, and if you're not married, you have no right to be starting that.

In addition to all of this, I have what I call a "very special" list, and a "no big deal" list. On the "no big deal" list are things like high fives, Facebook, and occasional emails. On the "very special" list are things like sex, kissing, and him putting his arm around me. I want that "very special" list to be as long as possible, because my relationship with my husband is going to be like no other. It's going to be wonderful. Amazing. Stunning. I want him to know when he marries me that he's getting everything. I don't even hold hands with other guys! I want him to know that he's my first and only for everything. He's the only one I'll say "I love you" to, the only one I'll hold hands with, the only one I lean on watching a movie...all the so-called little stuff. Because he's worth the wait, to me.

Someday, I'm going to come back here and let him read this, and look him in the eye and say, yes, you are worth waiting for.

Because he is.

I love him.


Leah