Let's get serious.

Disclaimer: If you are tired of reading my blogs about relationships and/or marriage, stop reading now.
Disclaimer #2: I am 22 and female and single, so this is basically always on my brain. I'm wired that way. Sorry.
Disclaimer #3: I'm done with disclaimers.


     Have you ever noticed that marriage is literally the ONLY thing in our lives we expect to just "happen" without any effort on our part? And if you *gasp* work toward it, you're *GASP* "desperate." Why IS that, anyway? Ok picture this:

     A guy is about to graduate from college, and is looking for a job. He says to a friend, "Yeah, I've been sending my resume out, I've applied for one position I really want, and I'm going to a job fair next week." His friend says, "You know, please don't take this the wrong way, but I think you're going to come across as desperate because of all this. I really think you need to stop looking and just trust God to make it happen for you when the time is right." Now if I'm the job-seeker here, I'd look at the other guy like he's crazy and walk away. And go to the job fair. Jobs don't just happen - you have to look for them. And I'm really starting to think it's the same way with getting married. Because here's the thing - all the people tell me to "wait on the Lord" are already married. Don't get me wrong, I'm not advocating rushing into something and being stupid about it. I'm just saying that sitting on your butt doesn't get you anywhere.
      Plus, people have this idea that being single is "a gift" or it's more "holy" than being married. After all, Jesus wasn't married, right? Yeah. To quote a book I'm reading, "Singleness is the kind of gift that makes us cringe and smile politely whole we desperately search for a gift receipt so we can return it." And if you want to know what Jesus thought about singleness, read Matthew 19. Singleness was the EXTREMELY small exception to the rule that people should be married. And since I don't have a ministry remotely close to Jesus or Paul, I'm VERY sure that I'm not part of the exception. And hey, God created them "male and female" and brought the woman to her man. God created marriage as the norm, not the option.
     Basically, I'm really over the world's perspective on marriage, and it really is time for the church to realize that they've been sucked in too and fix this. Unless you're one of the eunuchs Jesus described in Matthew 19, you should get married. This includes me. :) Thankfully. :) So the bottom line is that I'm done pretending that it doesn't matter to me if I get married or not. It does. I want that. And I think everyone else should stop pretending too. God made us this way on purpose! Let's get serious about this, and get married already:)



Leah